Wednesday, August 12, 2009

How to find the perfect guy?

How to find the perfect guy?
No. I'm not a relationship expert. But I can tell about what I know from my experience. One criterion to see if you have a good relationship is that friends start asking you for advices on their relationship. And that what I do, I give advice.

I have lots of female friends in their early 30's who are still single. They wonder why they can't find someone. I'm talking about women who are educated, nice, and have good career going for them. I know exactly why. Sometimes they can be intimidated for a guy to come on to them. And sometimes they are afraid to show that they can be sexy because it makes them feel any less feminism. I have three rules I use successfully; I’d never been short of dates until I finally found the guy of my dream.

Rule number one, you got to make yourself approachable. Smile often is a good start. Sometimes you even have to be the one who starts the conversation. Once you make the guy feel comfortable, let him take it from there. The key is you got to do it subtly, don’t be too aggressive.

Rule number two, guys are very visual. So to get their attention, you got to always look good or even sexy. Don't afraid to do it. Last night I talk to a good friend of mine who is a very intelligent and successful American guy (he brought in many millions USD a year). I asked him why guys always go after good looking women, isn't it true that when the lights are off, every woman looks the same. He laughed and replied that it is the same thing why women always go for successful guys. Women are all about security in life when they look for a husband, and guys are all about things they can appreciate with their eyes. Smart conversation is not the prerequisite for his wife-to-be. I'm surprised he said that because he is very intellectual guy. But that the way it is. So take care of your appearance. Don't be afraid to show off your feminine side.

Rule number three, show them that you are worth it. When you look good and are approachable, some guys are going to want to give it a try. But pursuing a woman takes energy and time. For ambitious men, they'd rather put their energy and time to their career, unless they feel that you are worth their effort. Being worth it is subjective since each guy has different taste and wants different things. But I can tell you roughly; you got to be understanding and make him feel good of whom he is, you got to give him space when he needs it, and you got to make him proud to show you off to his friends and family.

Lastly, we, especially women, ain’t getting any younger; don’t waste your time on somebody who is not the one. You got to find out as soon as possible. My rule is no more than 3 months. When you know that he’s not, you got to cut your loss. Move on, and give somebody else a try. Good husband is the most blessing in a woman’s life. You got to take it seriously. You’d better off with no husband than having a bad husband.

1. Know how to make yousmile when you are down.
2. Try to secretly smell your hair, but you always notice.
3. Stick upfor you, but still respects your independence.
4. Give you the remote control during the game.
5. Come up behind you and put hisarmsaround you.
6. Play with your hair.
7. His handsalways find yours.
8. Be cutewhen he really wants something.
9. Offer you plenty of massages.
10. Dancewith you, even if he feels like a dork.
11. Never run out of love.
12. Be funny, but know how to be serious.
13. Realize he's being funny when he needsto be serious.

14. Be patient when you take forever to get ready.
15. React so cutely when you hit him and it actuallyhurts. 16. Smilea lot.
17. Plans a romantic date full of cheesy things he wouldn't normally like to do, just because he knows it means a lot to you.
18. Appreciate you.
19. Help others out.
20. Drive 5hours just to see you for 1.
21. Alwaysgives you apeck on the cheek when you depart from each others company, even whenhis friends are watching.
22. Sing, even if he can't.
23. Have a creativesense of humor.
24. Stare at you.
25. Call for no reason.
26. Quitsmoking, chewing, drinking, or drugs - just because he loves u that much to quit it.

Things a perfect guy would do, and other propaganda disseminated by misguided women.

Things a perfect guy would do,
and other propaganda disseminated by misguided women.
Someone recently sent me an email titled 26 things a perfect guy would do. I thought "hmm, nobody could possibly send me anything so stupid, it can't possibly be as dumb as it sounds." I stand corrected. The email was just as advertised: a wish list of how women supposedly want men to act, as if men in this country weren't already an episode of Friends away from turning into giant walking vaginas.
I never thought I'd ever read anything that would induce my gag reflex so quickly, and this is after having read the details of an anal prolapse that a friend sent me tonight. Here is the abridged list (because the full list might literally cause you to barf on your keyboard, and frankly, it's not worth reading), followed by my response to each "thing" that a "perfect guy would do:"
1. Know how to make you smile when you are down!
When will women realize that they don't live on the set of a romantic comedy? Unless making you smile involves me playing video games while you cook me a steak, you're in for a disappointment. You don't think guys ever feel "down?" The door swings both ways, bitch.
2. Try to secretly smell your hair, but you always notice.
What? Why the hell would I want to smell a woman's hair? It smells bad enough with all the sprays and perfume they use. Enough with the conditioners, sprays, and cream already; that shit makes my eyes water. What the hell is conditioner anyway?
3. Stick up for you, but still respects your independence.
Translation: bail you out when you fail at life, but never bring it up during conversations.
4. Give you the remote control during the game.
This one is inherently stupid because it implies that all guys like to watch "the game." Since I'd rather be shot in the chest with projectile diarrhea than watch "the game," I'll assume the author meant something worthy of watching, such as Ren & Stimpy, in which case you need to put the bitch down if she touches your remote.
5. Come up behind you and put his arms around you.
LAME. Who has time for this? Sounds like something out of a herpes commercial where some lady is rock climbing or doing something else which symbolizes her independence, then out of nowhere she blurts out "I HAVE HERPES." The music gets all serious and you hear a voice over "...there is no cure," cue inspirational music "but treatment is available." Then it cuts to a shot of the bitch on a beach and a guy runs up behind her and puts his arms around her. Good job dumbass, you're dating a skank with herpes.
6. Play with your hair.
Again with the hair? Women never play with the hair on my back, why the double standard?
7. His hands always find yours.
This is one of those things women read and say "AWW HOW ROMANTIC." I have news for you: holding hands is stupid. Women don't know the first thing about being romantic. Only lesbians hold hands anyway; allow me to explain. The only time it's acceptable to hold hands with anyone is if you're at a peace vigil. Guys don't go to peace vigils, period. If you do, you have to surrender your balls and get a sex transplant because you're a bitch; in either case, you're a woman, and when two women hold hands it can only lead to one thing as far as I'm concerned.
8. Be cute when he really wants something.
Bullshit. When I want something, I yell. If she can't hear me in the kitchen, sometimes I'll threaten beatings if I'm sober.
9. Offer you plenty of massages.
For your boobs maybe. I happen to have the uncanny ability to massage breasts. With my mouth.
10. Dance with you, even if he feels like a dork.
Let's face it: there are few things in this world more stupid than dancing. Except break dancing, which pirates and lumber jacks would agree is awesome. Other than that, dancing makes me envy cripples.
11. React so cutely when you hit him and it actually hurts.
See, this is what pisses me off about women: they expect special treatment at their discretion. They want equal rights, equal pay, and equal treatment for everything EXCEPT when it comes to shit like this, then they want you to "react cutely" instead of, say, putting them in a head lock and making them eat ants and/or spiders while you give them carpet burn. Why don't women react "cutely" when men hit them for a change? Oops, I forgot, that's domestic abuse.
12. Drive 5 hours just to see you for 1.
Any guy who would drive five hours just to see a chick for one is an asshole. If every guy drove around for five hours just to spend one with their girlfriend, we'd fill up the air with so much pollution that we'd all choke on the exhaust, get cancer, and then bake under the sun while our lungs rupture and we slowly die from internal bleeding.
13. Stare at you.
You stupid attention seeking whore, just buy the bitch a mirror, because apparently she thinks that you don't have anything better to do than to sit around and stare at her. If women ran the world, we'd still be searching for the wheel.
14. Call for no reason.
Oops, this one belongs on the list of "Twenty-six things women do that piss men off because they need to fill their otherwise vapid lives with something to make them feel like they have a purpose for existing as they eventually realize that they're pissing their youth away on stupid bullshit like fashion trends."
I can't go on, I'm going to go do something less painful like stick my dick in the oven.

Why do people Cheat on one another if you are in a releationship?

Why do people Cheat on one another if you are in a releationship?
Is temptation to hard you just can't break up with you're current partner and tell them what you are about to do and the thoughts that are going threw your head?
I thouhgt a releationship is about HONESTY and TRUST? That would mean you would have to be honest to you're partner about your cheating thoughts!
I am placing a few pics in my bio about a cheater and I don't care who you are he will CHEAT on you too! BEWARE! You are not Special and He dosen't care for you or anyone but the head of his dick getting wet, That may hurt your feelings to be reading this and Recognize this cheater in this picture to think he might care for you, ... Lies is all your going to hear, More lies.... lies to cover more lies.
The things people say to you that is a clue that they are cheating on you:
1. They will accuse you of cheating on them ; ; the accuser is the doer.
2. They will start asking more questions of what you do and who you are with .
3. The Temper might change with Insecurities levels and quilty Intuitions.
4. Does he thrive on adventure?
5. Did he have a great deal of sexual experience prior to your relationship?
6. Does he have lots of female friends?
7. Does he have male friends who are cheating on their wives or girlfriends?
8. Does he have a parent who cheated?
9. Did he cheat in any of his past relationships?
10. Does he feel that infidelity is really no big deal?

1. Some men enjoy all the suspense, deception and intrigue that go along with infidelity. They'll cheat just for the "thrill of the chase."
2. Studies reveal that men who were extremely sexually active before settling down in a committed relationship are more apt to engage in sex outside that relationship. Don't expect a leopard to change his spots.
3. Close friendships with women are a common starting point for infidelity. Friends can quickly turn into lovers. The closer the friendship, the greater the odds that it will develop into an affair.
4. Never underestimate the power of peer pressure. If his friends are cheating, he'll soon be cheating too.
5. Infidelity tends to run in families. Children of unfaithful parents are often programmed to follow in their footsteps, considering infidelity to be the norm.
6. "Once a cheater, always a cheater." There are exceptions, but statistically speaking, if he cheated once, he's more apt to do it again. His history will probably repeat itself.
7. If he doesn't believe that infidelity is wrong, his behavior will reflect his beliefs.
Tips on How to Deal With a Potential Cheater
If it turns out you're dating a potential cheater, or you're strongly considering dating one, you need to know what to do. Even with only one yes answer on the Potential Cheaters Quiz, there's still cause for concern. My special report, "How to Handle a Potential Cheater", lists a number of precautions you can take. It also includes several successful strategies to use. To receive a FREE copy of this report ( a $7 value), send an e-mail to: with "Potential Cheater Report" in the subject line.
What Kind of Cheater Is He? - Evaluate Your Results
Generally speaking, the more 'yes' answers, the greater the likelihood that a man will cheat. But some answers carry more weight than others, so you'll want to take a closer look at the results.
If you answered yes to 1, 2, or 5 (but not all three), he's a POTENTIAL CHEATER who may very well cheat on you if the opportunity presents itself. If you decide to get involved with him, you need to make it difficult for him to cheat. Familiarize yourself with the signs of infidelity, so you'll know if he starts to stray.
If you answered yes to 3 or 4 alone, together, or in combination with 1 or 2, he's a COMMON "GARDEN-VARIETY" CHEATER who will cheat if he feels he can do so without getting caught. Your challenge, if you insist on dating him, is to stay one step ahead of him by learning to recognize the early warning signs. If you know how to spot the signs of impending infidelity, you may be able to stop his cheating before it starts, or leave before he breaks your heart. Familiarize yourself with the 21 major categories of telltale signs.
If you answered yes to 6 alone or in combination with 1,2, 3, 4, or 5 you're dealing with an EXPERIENCED CHEATER who knows how to hide the obvious signs of infidelity. The most important thing to do if you're dating this man is learn to spot the subtle signs of infidelity, because these are the signs that will inevitably give him away. Get a good infidelity reference guide, watch him like a hawk, and try not to get too deeply involved.
If you answered yes to 7 alone ( This one's the biggie!) or in combination with any others, you've got a HARD-CORE, HABITUAL CHEATER on your hands who's probably already having an affair. (You could unknowingly be the Other Woman.) For this man, cheating is a way of life. If you don't want to become an infidelity statistic, leave this man alone. Should you decide to take on this challenge, you're in serious trouble if you don't know how to spot the subtle signs of infidelity. Forget about watching for the usual signs of cheating. This man is an expert at covering his tracks. The best thing you can do is become adept at spotting the subtle signs of infidelity, since there won't be any obvious signs to give him away. The subtle signs are the ones he won't even think to cover up. Get the best infidelity reference book you can find to help you recognize these subtle signs. Invest in a copy of Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs which lists practically every known sign of infidelity ( ) and keep it handy at all times.
Always remember on how your releationship was a few weeks or months ago when there wasn't anyone else in your releationship. How was you being treated? Nothing should of changed! Things always change in your releationship when someone else comes in it and Interferes the two of you!
The Defintion is Cheater: to use dishonest methods to acheive a goal. Dishonest person who uses cleaver means to cheat others out of something of value. Releated words: distort, falsify, misrepresent, twist, fake, tamper with, elaborate, embellish,evade and stretch.
The reasons men cheat are as familiar, and pervasive, as the clich├ęs they've inspired: His wife doesn't understand him. She constantly busts his chops. He just can't help himself. But if more women examined those motives and spotted the warning signs, they might be able to nip infidelity in the bud, claims Steve Santagati, author of The Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think, Date and Mate – and What Women Can Do to Come Out on Top (Crown, 2007).

"Ninety-nine percent of the time, there's a simple reason why men cheat: boredom," says Santagati, a relationship expert and former model who has dispensed no-nonsense dating advice on The Today Show, The Tyra Banks Show and Rachael Ray. Fortunately, he adds, it doesn't take much for a woman to snap her man out of the doldrums. All she has to do is put a little energy into taking the monotony out of monogamy.

"Get him thinking, keep him wondering about you, surprise him sexually," Santagati suggests. "Once you start to do these things, the sense of mystery will heighten the experience and keep him interested."

And that means he's less likely to offer one of the following excuses for stepping out:

1. She ain't what she used to be.
Like Adam, the typical man can't resist the temptation of riper fruit, especially if the woman in his life has let herself go. "If she got lazy physically or gained weight or just doesn't take care of herself, a guy will start looking at other women," Santagati says. Women who want to keep their men on a short leash need to take a "good, hard look in the mirror," he adds. And men should do the same. He might be a complete slob and still be demanding perfection from her. "It's the typical double standard."

For their part, guys should also make an effort to rediscover the spark at home. "Make her feel pretty, even if you're lying," he advises. "Tell her how beautiful she is and how much you appreciate it. It will make her feel sexy and she'll want to make you happy."

2. No one loves a ball buster.
Perhaps nothing will drive a married man into the arms of another woman faster than a nagging wife. "She's like a mosquito," Santagati says. "He doesn't want to have sex with her; he wants to [swat her away]." The more viable option: hot sex with a more, uh, "understanding" woman.

3. The thrill of it all.
Most guys who have affairs are getting in touch with their inner caveman: They like to play with fire. "It adds a level of danger," Santagati says, "and danger adds to the excitement." By keeping surprise and sizzle in your sex life, a woman can keep the home fires burning so hot that her man won't have any reason to stray.

4. Blame it on wanderlust.
Often, married men who roam can't quite explain their motivation. They just find themselves compelled to bust out of their day-to-day routine in search of something new. It's a primitive instinct that dates back to their role as hunter and gatherer – only this time, they're hunting and gathering new women.

"Maybe he got married too young," Santagati says, "or he just feels as if he hasn't seen everything." Women can protect themselves by getting wise to this behavior early in the relationship – and getting out. Santagati suggests you can find out more about a man's dating history by watching how he acts in a room full of gorgeous women. If you can't rein him in when your romance is new, you'll never control him down the road when your life together is more settled. "The first three months are critical," he says.

5. It's biology, baby.
Okay, women are going to find this theory a tad hard to swallow, but it seems the male urge to get into someone else's jeans is in their genes. "It's our biological nature to be with as many females as possible," Santagati says.

"Once we've seen a woman naked several times, it becomes commonplace. It doesn't matter if you're Jessica Alba or Sienna Miller, we become accustomed to your body and want to experience something different – different lips, different body types. We're only monogamous because we realize that love and friendship are more important than getting laid."

6. It's just sex.
For most guys, sex and love are two entirely different things. "We really believe, 'I can still love my wife and want to have sex with other women.' We separate it in our brains," Santagati says. That rationale allows guys to dabble guilt-free, with one notable exception:

"Any guilt that a man has after sex isn't about the sex itself, it's about the consequences," Santagati says. "Will she be a stalker? Will my wife find out?

If a guy is in a committed, monogamous relationship, he should ask himself one question before he cheats: Is it worth it? He should consider the worst-case scenario, meaning that his wife finds out and is now brokenhearted. Is it worth it?"

Will He Cheat? Rate the Risk
It's thought that about 60% of men cheat on their partners - and 70% of those wives don't have a clue. Is your guy ever-true... or a sneaky cheat?

We'd all like to think that people can make changes, learn to compromise, and make their relationship stronger. Unromantic men can learn to buy a card every once in a while; women who nag can learn to stop themselves at least a few times they see toothpaste in the sink, or whatever it is. But those are small changes. The big changes -- the changes that can make or break a relationship -- are the ones most of us are really concerned about. And perhaps the biggest question of all -- when you consider that 25 percent of men admit to cheating in relationships and about 15 percent of women do -- is this: Can cheaters change? Is cheating an inherent personality trait or a controllable behavioral one? Can a guy -- or gal -- who strays learn to be a house cat?

For these purposes, we'll consider cheating full-on sexual contact -- not only sex, but also its close relatives. (I fully know that 60 percent of men say that even having drinks with an old flame is cheating, 50 percent of men say visiting strip clubs is cheating, and virtually all women say emotional betrayal is worse than physical betrayal. So I know cheating is complicated, but here, we'll go with the traditional "Where did my underwear go?" definition.) The average woman says that the No. 1 reason for divorce is infidelity -- so that indicates to me that for women, their answer is no, cheaters can't change (or if they do, they don't believe he deserves a second chance). After I give you my take, I'd love to hear your thoughts about this very question, because I think your perception of this issue may very well depend, in some major way, on whether you've been burned -- or have done the burning.

Can Cheaters Change? Not a chance!

Once someone crosses the line in the relationship (again, that line being different things to different people, but for argument's sake, we're talking here about the horizontal hora), it's like a seal being broken on a pill bottle. Though some of it may depend on whether it was a drunken fling or an ongoing stealth hookup with someone at work, the fact is that once that trust is compromised, the offender will have a hard time resetting the relationship to its startup condition. Even if the victim accepts the offender back into the relationship, the offender will be likely to stray again -- because he knows he's already gotten away with it once. The bigger picture, really, is the fact that he (we'll assume the cheater is a he; sorry, guys) cheated for a reason -- that something in his current relationship -- for example, one study showed that couples with infidelity issues showed greater dishonesty, arguments about trust, narcissism, and time spent apart -- made him explore other options. And that's ultimately what makes him prone to do it again. But...

Can Cheaters Change?

Just because someone has cheated in one relationship doesn't mean that he's always a cheater in his next relationships -- for the very same reason. In the relationship where he cheated, he was willing to gamble it away. So if he enters a committed relationship where he feels there's much more to lose, there's a less likely chance he'll want to risk it. Does that mean he won't, or that he couldn't succumb to the temptations of the tight-topped bartender? Of course not. Cheating certainly can make some relationships impossible to continue, but some infidels can indeed change -- that is, if he hopes to make other relationships even remotely possible.

Possible signs of cheating men

Do you think your man is cheating on you? Don't let him get away with it. Cheating men always leave signs. Here at, we have compiled a list of the most common cheating men signs. Use them to your advantage and don't let him get away with it!.
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Before you read the below information, please note one of the easiest way to "Catch a Cheater" is to set a trap. 99.9% of the time, cheating men will cheat when their partner is out of town or when the cheater is traveling. Tell your partner you are leaving for the weekend and then wait and watch. If he doesn't come home all night, he could be at another woman's house or a hotel, in which case you would have to follow him. Otherwise, he may bring her to his or "your" house. Remember the old saying...."when the cat's away, the mouse will play." It's very true.....
**This is one of my most favorite ways of catching a cheater besides a computer key logger. Placing a long recording, voice-activated digital tape recorder will allow you to hear all of your partners phone and in-car conversations. Make sure you hide it well. I have known MANY women who have caught their partners this way. It's quick, easy and much cheaper than hiring a detective.....
Putting a Track Stick GPS tracking device in your partner's car also works but they can be pricey. Usually the cost about US$249.00 but they are no larger than a pack of gum and will track anywhere his automobile goes. Do a search on Google.....
Lie detector test have become affordable and available in most major cities. Write down 10 "yes" or "no" questions and ask your partner to take one. They are fairly accurate but I would not rely soley on this method.....
Set your partner up by placing a fake profile on-line and see if he takes the bait or get one of your girlfriends to hit on him with a recording device in her purse.....
If your partner is computer savy and you don't feel secure installing a key logger, consider an external attachment which you can find at for about US$89.....
If you have exhausted all other means of catching your partner, you can fake that you know information. For example, you could say something like "I know what you've been up to and I am going to give you the opportunity to tell me the truth now. However, if you lie to me, it will make things ten times worse." Act like you have proof, act serious, and give him overnight to "think about it." Many men will lie to the very end but if you are a good enough actress, you may get the information you are looking for. ....
NEVER accuse your partner of cheating unless you have concrete proof because the majority will lie to not get caught and simply cover their tracks better.....
A woman's gut instinct is rarely wrong, so listen to it. Women also seem to be born detectives.....
Good luck.....
Discovery of a post office box.....
The toilet bowl seat is up, (men) and when you left home it was down.....
The passenger seat in the car has been moved and is not in the usual position.....
Unaccounted for hairs of a different color on clothing.....
Cigarette smoke on clothing that can't be explained.....
Clothes smell of perfume, massage oil residue and/or sex or have make-up stains and/or lipstick smudges.....
Needs a pager, cellular phone. Turns off phone when he's with you. Goes outside or to another room when making calls.....
Secretion stains on underwear.....
Check wallets and/or the car glove compartments to see if they left receipts, match books, condoms, pieces of paper with phone numbers, notes, addresses, etc.....


Paper trails: Phone bills and habits of Cheaters

Unexplained, repetitive charges on mobile phone bill. Often these will be made right after leaving home in the morning and right before coming home in the evening. A cellular phone bill is one of the best ways to catch cheating men because the bill lists every single call made (unlike a bill for conventional phone services, which list only long distance charges). If you suspect your partner is cheating, and they don't have a cell phone, it wouldn't be a bad idea to buy them one.....
Cell phone bills contain calls with long duration.....
Cell phone calls are not returned in timely fashion.....
Home phone and calling card records containing calls with long duration.....
An unusual number of hang ups or wrong number calls.....
Leaves house or goes to other rooms to talk on the telephone.....
Hangs up suddenly when you walk in the room.....
Cheating man has suspicious phone voice-mail messages.....
Cheating man has suspicious cell phone numbers stored or dialed.....
Cheating man has suspicious pager messages.....
Receives pages in the middle of the night.....
Unknown pager numbers stored in memory.
Computer usage

Most men who are having affairs or seeing escorts wipe out the information from their hard drive with programs like Window Washer which makes them more difficult to catch, but not impossible. Key logger software programs can catch anyone.
Some cheating signs to watch for are:
Uses computer alone and secretly with a demand for privacy - If someone begins cheating, whether on-line or in real life, they'll often go to great lengths to hide the truth from their partner. The computer may be moved from a visible den to a locked office. Try to keep your computer in a public area at home where you can monitor your partner's internet activity.....
Internet web browser history list (this is a record of web sites visited) contains unusual sites. This is an easy way to catch a cheater unless they clear their cache (memory) often or use a software to clean it.....
Frequent visits to Internet free e-mail accounts to cover their tracks. (i.e., hotmail, msn, yahoo, gmail, etc…)....
Uncommon e-mail messages or deleted e-mail messages.....
Cheater is preoccupied with on-line chatting, more distant emotionally, spending an excessive amount of time in the on-line chat rooms.....
Excessive internet usage especially late at night.....
Talk to your partner about their views on "cybersex," online pornography and the legitimacy of "online adultery".....
If interrupted when online, the cheater may react with anger or defensiveness.....
Cheaters quickly close programs when you enter the room.....
Most cheating married men lie to protect their affairs, which often trigger bigger and bolder lies - including denial or telling you they will quit.....
Sleep patterns change - Chat rooms and meeting places for cybersex don't heat up until late at night, so the cheating husbands or boyfriends tend to stay up later. Often, the partner suddenly begins coming to bed in the early-morning hours or may get out of bed earlier for a pre-work e-mail exchange with a new romantic partner.....
Loss of interest in sex- Some cyber affairs evolve into phone sex or an actual rendezvous, but cybersex alone often includes mutual masturbation from the confines of each person's computer room. When a cheating man suddenly shows a lesser interest in sex, it may be an indicator that he or she has found another sexual outlet. If sexual relations continue in the relationship at all, the cheating partner may be less enthusiastic, energetic, and responsive to you and your lovemaking.....

When a cheating man picks up the phone they whisper or tell the person they will call back later.

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Finance clues

Credit card bills containing unusual gifts, travel, restaurant and unusual/unknown charges.....
Cosmetic, perfume or lipstick purchases listed but not received.....
Florist or jewelry bills.....
Income tax returns revealing unexplained travel and business expense deductions.....
Unexplained payments on bank statements.....
Cheating man has more cash on hand without accountability.....
Cheating man has unexplained receipts in wallet, car glove compartment or office desk.....
Discovering the recent opening of another checking account.....
Unexplained withdrawals from checking account.....
Increase in ATM withdrawals. Check the transaction record to determine the withdrawal location, time and date. Watch for areas that are an unexplained distance from the ATM withdrawal.....
Time and Date - ATM withdrawal is recorded at a time when the spouse should be elsewhere, such as at work.....
Credit card gas purchases inconsistent for the amount of miles driven on the car.....
Gas credit cards containing uncommon locations of gas stations.
Car mileage clues

Cheating men's driving pattern may change. You may find the car needs gas more often or you may monitor the car's odometer and find the cheater is putting a lot of unexplained miles on the car.....
Monitor your partner for two weeks. During this time keep track of the mileage on their car. Monitor the time they leave for work and the time they come home. By keeping a calendar and noting the times, this should help you establish a pattern. If your mate claims to be working late, check paycheck stubs to verify this overtime.....
Your partner explains a late return home as a result of having to drive out of town on business, but yet the mileage on the car indicates less than ten mile driven.
Behavioral changes

- Joins a health gym or weight reduction clinic.
- Tanning salon visits.
- New hairstyle.
- Wears hair spray, colognes & perfumes more often.
- Excessive buying of new and different clothes.
- Gets laundry done independently.
- Buys sexy underwear or lingerie.
- More frequent bathing and more careful grooming.
- An unexplained indifference or aloofness in the relationship.
- Spontaneous plans or events that do not include you.
- Cheater is often distracted and daydreaming.
- Asks about your schedule more often than usual.
- Viagra usage increases.
Cheater pays less attention to you. Cheater shuns things like shared baths, talking over the dishes after dinner, or renting a video on Saturday night. Cheater doesn't get as excited about taking vacations together and avoids talking about long-range relationship plans. Cheaters are having their fun with someone else, and their thoughts of the future revolve around fantasies of running off with their affair.
Cheater spends unaccounted time away from home.
Cheater may have a change in sexuality (i.e., more sex, less sex) as well as unexplained sexual requests.
Your partner comes home late and you feel like "being romantic" and they tell you they are too tired.
Your partner becomes defensive during normal conversations.
Household chores ignored - When an internet user increases time on-line, household chores often go undone.
Cheaters often lose interest in domestic activities, such as spending time with the kids, fixing up the house, lawn care, etc.
Cheater starts bringing you flowers and acts especially nice or cheater doesn't bring you flowers anymore and acts especially mean.
At the beginning of an affair, the cheater may actually be more affectionate than usual due to guilt feelings.
After the affair has been going on for a while, the cheater often starts finding fault with the partner as a defensive mechanism (i.e., to justify the affair in their mind).
Cheater's relationship with you will almost always change. They become more distant, fault-finding or blame you for their behavior.
Your cheating partner tells you he just hired a new assistant and that she's not very pretty. However, when you meet her for the first time, she's absolutely gorgeous. If your partner isn't cheating, or thinking about it, he wouldn't lie to you about her looks.
Work habit clues

Coming home later than usual. Excuses of working late or hanging around with buddies after work.....
Cheating men are often unavailable at work.....
Cheater attends more work functions alone.....
Abnormal work hours.
Tips to catch a cheater

Set them up in a bar or gym or place they frequent by using one of your friends as prey.....
Press the re-dial on the phone or *69. This is an effective way to find out who they've been calling.....
If you suspect that your partner is involved in an online affair or excessive usage of internet pornography, monitor their online activity using the latest technology available. There are many software applications that record every keystroke on your computer without slowing it down or changing its performance.....
Be aware of any close platonic relationships. Most friends will not approve of the cheater's ways but will cover for them. Some friends will actually help the cheater by providing an alibi for the cheater. The cheater's friend will assist the cheater out of loyalty stemming from a friendship.....
If you suspect the cheater is actually cheating at home while you're away, make false plans to be away one weekend and stay at a local hotel. Park down the street from your residence, then watch and wait. Have a non-violent plan as to what you intend to do if your suspicions are confirmed.....
**IMPORTANT NOTE: The cheating man must NOT know that you suspect him/her. Although it is difficult, you must still treat the cheater the same way as you did prior to suspecting him/her of cheating. Give the cheater plenty of room to hang himself/herself.
Best websites to help you catch a cheater

The following websites can help you find out your partners:
Address - Phone number - Date of Birth/Place of Birth - Are they married?- Are they divorced?- Have they ever declared bankruptcy?- Have they ever been charged with a DWI? - Have there been any civil suits filed against them?- Do they have a criminal record? How much are they worth? - Where they honorably discharged from the Military? - Did they graduate from college? - Background business check, etc…
One of the best site out there. Does asset searches, background checks, bug sweeps, business search, cheating spouses, fraud prevention, phone searches, postal searches, repossessions, dead beat dad searches, vehicle searches, etc… Check out cellular, home or pager records Also includes collect calls and 3rd party billed calls. A very powerful tool!
If your partner does not have a cellular telephone, you can look at records of the phone numbers that were sent to their pager.
Want to know exactly where your partner and their cellular telephone are?
If their cellular phone is turned on, you can use the cellular phone network to pinpoint the exact location of their cellular phone, anywhere in the USA! You give a cellular telephone number and you will be provided with the current GPS coordinates of the telephone. The phone must be turned on and in the United States. You get GPS and the nearest street address.
No cell phone or pager – no problem! A fake phone calling card gives you detailed records of every call that was made with the card. It even comes with a promotional letter that makes it look like a valuable free sample from a phone company. You get a record of every call made. You buy a calling card, give it to your partner and you get a detailed printout of every call made, date, time, and telephone number called, and telephone number call placed from.
Motor Vehicle Tracer
A list of all motor vehicles owned.

Marine Vehicle Tracer
A list of all boats and watercraft owned.

Aircraft Tracer
a list of all aircraft owned.

Canadian Bank Account
Tracer A list of all bank accounts in Canada owned.

Bank Account Tracer
A list of all bank accounts nationwide. You get the account numbers and the balances.

Stocks and Bonds Tracer
A list of all stocks, bonds and mutual funds owned. You get the account numbers and the balances. Does your debtor own any stocks, or Bonds?

Off-Shore Bank Account Tracer
A list of all bank accounts and balances that are held by that person worldwide. Covers all tax haven countries (England, Germany, Brazil, Columbia, Japan, Canada, Cayman Islands, Turks & Caicos, Switzerland, Etc) You get the account numbers and the balances.

Employer Tracer

Credit Report

Real Estate Tracer
A list of all real estate owned by that person per county, state or nationwide.

Dead Beat Parent Asset Search
Locate their address, employer, bank accounts, real estate and vehicles. Must include child support order. You can use your judgment in court to attach to the assets you find. Bank accounts can be seized; boats, planes or other luxury assets can be seized and auctioned off. Real estate may be foreclosed on to collect your debt. Also, if you find a bank account or asset that your X-spouse did not disclose to the court, they could be found in contempt of court and additional monies awarded to you for their fraud and deception. It is up to you to prove that their financial statements submitted are false.
DNA testing kits
An Infidelity Test Kit will quickly and easily monitor your partner's sexual activity outside of the relationship by detecting traces of semen left in their undergarments after sex.....
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This was Written Because I have been Cheated on and It sucks!
Written By Kalyn Loe
Some peices of articles from: David Zinczenko and WomanSavers inc.

China, What if?

Apr 12 2009 by : Matt Rosenberg
China has proclaimed that it will continue its one child policy, which limits couples to having one child, through the 2006-2010 five year planning period.
China's one child policy was established by Chinese leader Deng Xiaoping in 1979 to limit communist China's population growth. Although designated a "temporary measure," it continues a quarter-century after its establishment. The policy limits couples to one child. Fines, pressures to abort a pregnancy, and even forced sterilization accompanied second or subsequent pregnancies.
It is not an all-encompassing rule because it has always been restricted to ethnic Han Chinese living in urban areas. Citizens living in rural areas and minorities living in China are not subject to the law. However, the rule has been estimated to have reduced population growth in the country of 1.3 billion by as much as 300 million people over its first twenty years.
This rule has caused a disdain for female infants; abortion, neglect, abandonment, and even infanticide have been known to occur to female infants. The result of such Draconian family planning has resulted in the disparate ratio of 114 males for every 100 females among babies from birth through children four years of age. Normally, 105 males are naturally born for every 100 females.

(CONSPIRACY (CIVIL): an agreement between persons to deceive, mislead, or defraud others of their legal rights, or to gain an unfair advantage )

Jan 10 2009The rate of national growth is expressed as a percentage for each country, commonly between about 0.1% and 3% annually. You'll find two percentages associated with population - natural growth and overall growth. Natural growth represents the births and deaths in a country's population and does not take into account migration. The overall growth rate takes migration into account.
For example, Canada's natural growth rate is 0.3% while its overall growth rate is 0.9%, due to Canada's open immigration policies. In the U.S., the natural growth rate is 0.6% and overall growth is 0.9%. The growth rate of a country provides demographers and geographers with a good contemporary variable for current growth and for comparison between countries or regions. For most purposes, the overall growth rate is the more frequently utilized.
The growth rate can be used to determine a country or region or even the planet's "doubling time," which tells us how long it will take for a country's current population to double. This length of time is determined by dividing the growth rate into 70. The number 70 comes from the natural log of 2, which is .70.
Given Canada's overall growth of 0.9% in the year 2006, we divide 70 by .9 (from the 0.9%) and yield a value of 77.7 years. Thus, in 2083, if the current rate of growth remains constant, Canada's population will double from its current 33 million to 66 million. However, if we look at the U.S. Census Bureau's International Data Base Summary Demographic Data for Canada, we see that Canada's overall growth rate is expected to decline to 0.6% by 2025. With a growth rate of 0.6% in 2025, Canada's population would take about 117 years to double (70 / 0.6 = 116.666).
The world's current (overall as well as natural) growth rate is about 1.14%, representing a doubling time of 61 years. We can expect the world's population of 6.5 billion to become 13 billion by 2067 if current growth continues. The world's growth rate peaked in the 1960s at 2% and a doubling time of 35 years.
Most European countries have low growth rates. In the United Kingdom, the rate is 0.2%, in Germany it's 0.0%, and in France, 0.4%. Germany's zero rate of growth includes a natural increase of -0.2%, without immigration, Germany would be shrinking, like the Czech Republic.
The Czech Republic and some other European countries' growth rate is actually negative (on average, women in the Czech Republic give birth to 1.2 children, which is below the number to yield zero population growth, approximately 2.1 children). The Czech Republic's natural growth rate of -0.1 can not be used to determine doubling time because the population is actually shrinking in size.
Many Asian and African countries have high growth rates. Afghanistan has a current growth rate of 4.8%, representing a doubling time of 14.5 years! If Afghanistan's growth rate remained the same (which is very unlikely and the country's projected growth rate for 2025 is a mere 2.3%), then the population of 30 million would become 60 million in 2020, 120 million in 2035, 280 million in 2049, 560 million in 2064, and 1.12 billion in 2078! This is a ridiculous expectation. As you can see, population growth percentages is better utilized for short term projections.
Increased population growth generally represents problems for a country - it means increased need for food, infrastructure, and services. These are expenses that most high-growth countries have little ability to provide today, let alone if population rises dramatically.